My dream of homeschooling both boys is coming to an end because J-man doesn't me to teach him anymore. Not that I have been...... since they were teeny munchkins. Just in case each year I have my plans made, just in case I have the opportunity. I would love to have them home with me, teaching them but we have very different opinions and ideas in this house. As in most homes, we have our disagreements and discussions. These times it is very important to learn the art of compromise.
We compromise on lots things. Sometimes I get my wants, and sometimes Joel gets it his way. Most times we compromise. We are doing our best to work as a team for the best of our family. As Joel is the leader of our household, as God wants the man to be, it is important for him to have our respect even when there are the disagreements and arguments. We have our differences but try to remember to respect the other's opinion. We try to be open to the other person's point of view and to listen to their words, as well as those that may remain unspoken. Trust me, it sounds great on "paper" or webpage, but we are not perfect or even very good at it, depending on the day. The point is to keep trying. Keep praying for wisdom and all.
"Wives submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church... Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her..." Ephesians 5:22-23, 25
"...each of you must love also love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Ephesians 5:33
This summer we are working on having a right attitude as well as the way we react to things. Times are tough as the children grow and they go through stages. Not all stages are bad, but not all are good by any means. As I was just reminded while getting the boys ready for bed, we are working on obedience as well. All children go through a time of disobedience. They test us to see how far, and how much they can get away with. As T-man is quickly finding out, it isn't far and it isn't much.
There are times when we can all use a reminder of how we are supposed to be acting, especially when it comes to our interactions with loved ones. There are many things that can cause us to lose our joy and we tend to take that out on those closest to us. I am guilty of this. It makes me sad whenever I realize that is what is happening. I find myself snapping at Joel or even the boys for things that has nothing to do with them. This is when a good, heartfelt "I'm sorry" comes into play. For the boys I try to take the time to explain that I should not have reacted that way, said whatever it was that caused the hurt feelings and to definitely apologize. I need to get better at this with Joel. I take it for granted that he will understand a lot more than I should and need to remember that he probably has no clue as to why I am upset since he is at work all day. It isn't his fault that "X" happened and I need to a) realize that and b) apologize and explain it to him.
We have so much power to bring life or so much hurt to others through our words, through our tones. If you make a mistake, apologize. Two simple words that can be very difficult to say. Trust me, I understand.
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:3-4
This year was a big year in just one certain way. We have completed a large project this year that was 12 years in the making!
We now have new counters in the kitchen. We no longer have the ugly yellow wheat stalk printed counters and backsplash!
Finally it is gone!
Here are a couple of Before photos:
Now for the After Photos:
I am still very excited about the new counters even though they were installed at the beginning of July! It is helping me to want to keep the counters cleared and the kitchen clean. I like a clean kitchen regardless but this helps me to stay encouraged.
The tablecloth is probably going to go away. The green color in it was supposed to be the color of the wall but it is lighter and a completely different green.
Now, I believe that we are all caught up on the goings on in our family... Oh! I did forget one thing. Joel leaves very soon for England and yesterday his international phone for work had dropped and the screen is shattered. If y'all can please pray that he gets a replacement before he leaves...tomorrow! That would be very appreciated. Thank you!
God's blessings to you all!